The cubicle life is sedentary, and it can be unhealthy. We know this all too well – you finish grad school and enter the work force, and with irregular and unsustained bursts of activity, you gain a good 25 pounds.
As you struggle to get back in shape, you talk about your efforts with your coworkers. Sometimes (much of the time?) it falls into a common trap – bashing our own bodies. This is generally a social activity, but can seep into the workplace easily. Haven't seen it? You've probably missed it.
"You look great, but I'd never be able to wear that."
"I remember when I was young and my metabolism was quick."
"I need to go work out."
I'm sure you've heard similar things in your workplaces, and it goes on and on. From normal, healthy, beautiful women.
Don't get me wrong - sometimes the comments above are actually true. Not every style works for every shape, metabolism does slow down, and working out is a good thing. But saying, and hearing, those types of comments can be hurtful, to both ourselves and others. At the very least, they can be annoying.
It's a hard habit to break, but there are two things we can do:
Stop tearing ourselves down.
If you're giving a compliment, let it stand on its own merit; don't feel like you need to bring yourself down in the process.
Offer a solution, like walking together during lunch or splitting meals when eating out. Or start an informal office challenge among coworkers with similar goals – see who can stick to their plan the best and celebrate milestones together.